10 Ways to Find Your Jewish Soul Mate in 2022 & on
We all need to find a good Jewish Man or Woman to trust, date & marry and eventually raise a loving family with. A Jewish soulmate is not something that is supposed to be so hard to find, yet why is it? The spiritual world has no physicality or physical distance, so two souls, meant to be, are bound to meet – but, we just need a few things to happen and it all starts with some effort on your part.
The best Jewish Men and Women tend to get quite nervous about dating ; the idea about being stuck with someone forever, when you feel so happy currently in your own life, having someone threaten that positive lifestyle, is a scary thought. So how do we accomplish the search and get to a nice healthy marriage when the idea of starting to search for dates is exhausting and overwhelming?
Here are some ways for you to start dating Jewish Men or Jewish Women locally & around the world:
1 : Stop the Procrastination! Delaying the inevitable, is not smart, age will come into play and emotionally, we need someone there by our side. We all deserve partners in life, do not wait to date. It is fun, changes up the week, and truly allows you to grow in ways never imagined before by becoming closer with someone, you become closer to get to know yourself and what you truly are looking for.
2 : Start putting the word out there to local Rabbis, Shadchans & Matchmakers. Jewish Men and Jewish Women are always connecting with Rabbis and Shadchans, so shouldn’t you? These leaders and prominent figures tend to meet new people daily and may actually know a lot of potentials for you to start meeting right away. Many Rabbis and Matchmakers also have profiles or resumes of Jewish Singles locally with pictures, so you are able to check out ideas of potential Jewish matches before they contact people in many cases.
3 : Using all available websites and apps available for Jewish Dating. Everyone is using Jswipe + Jdate, and those more religious tend to use SawyouatSinai. Where JMeetups.com comes in, essentially the connector website for Jewish men and Jewish women to come and find each other for dates, Shabbos, parties, events, and allowing organization’s leaders who are shadchans to come on to invite singles to local Jewish events and other Jewish meetups and occasions for singles to meet.
4 : Going to local Jewish Events – Check out Chabad shuls that have prominent parties and events locally and start going to them. They are beyond fantastic. Go to any major Jewish party or event in your local city, even if the organization may not be so religious, as many of them have orthodox and more religious attendees. Bring a few friends, so you are comfortable, yet sometimes, its easier to go alone to become more social and get yourself to meet new people. At these events, go to areas that are more condensed so you have the ability to meet others more easily or target Rabbis where people are constantly going up to them, so you can meet others as they are met with others throughout the event as they are speaking to you – easy introductions.
5 : Going to Shul/Synagogue and being social at all social hall events and kiddushes, torah classes and seminars, lectures, shiurs, etc. Every shul and synagogue , you will see there are classes, events, parties, weekly and daily services and more. Start going , as people will meet you and want to help you in your local Jewish life from dating to Shabbos meals and holiday plans. It is also a great way to build a strong Jewish social circle around you. Jewish women and men both enjoy the synagogue life, kiddushes, and private lunch and Shabbos dinner invites, so be apart of that world as well by showing up and start attending your local shul today!
6 : Mental Health or Coaching – Make sure you have someone that is your advocate heling you and guiding you through your own journey. Sometimes you do not know how to date from previous trauma you have experienced holding you back or other situations, so having a personal coach or mental health practitioner helping you, allows you to grow and develop so dating becomes an obstacle easier to tackle and finding the right one becomes easier to identify.
7 : Mentors – Rabbis and smart strong people you admire are great individuals to talk to about your dating life. Individuals you respect are sometimes those with great advise, and remember to look at their marriage and how they have their own family life before you dive into their opinions on what to look for, etc. Make sure you go after the right mentors, however, once you find a great mentor, you can experience great aha moments and get ideas that help you in dating.
8 : Learning and Development – It is hard to date if you are not at a place that can accept another. Usually due to lack of education or personal development, it is hard to bring others into your life. Maybe until you finish school or until you get yourself into a stable career, etc. These are all great ideas, yet learning and development should not prevent you from dating, it should help you, as it will show others you are full of passion. Sometimes we think its harder to date while in school or while we are trying to achieve so much, but having the right partner make achieving so much easier.
9 : Exercise, Nutrition and Feel Good – How can you date and feel confident when you are not taking care of you!? How do you feel today, is a great question to ask before, have you met anyone lately?! Are you exercising? Are you eating semi decently so you feel good the next day and not have digestive issues or anything that would prevent you from having an uncomfortable dating experience? A lot of times, when we feel better, our confidence goes up and dating becomes quite easier. Many are not able to exercise, and that is ok, but nutrition alone can help build the right balance in our bodies which helps our mental health as well.
10 : Dress for Success , Look Sharp – A Jewish Guy or Jewish Gal can always just go to Nordstrom Rack, or some other local discount department store and find nice clothes that are modern, conservative and sharp. We have to remember to look the part of someone professional, stable and put together. Everyone wants to be able to make sure they can take you home to the family and how you look, although we hate being judged, is going to be judged the first time and following times you start the dating process with the new individual you have met. So…be smart about dress. Do not show off in ways that are not manageable or do things that are not you or too flashy that attracts attention for ayin hora, but make sure you show that you care and you want to make a good impression.
A good Jewish Man is what you want, really? You want a great Jewish woman? It’s exhausting to listen to who wants what, etc. etc. To build a relationship and find the Right one, the positive energy and effort you put forth to Hashem and how you are as a person will reflect the type of person Hashem will also bring back to you. Finding Jewish love is not so hard when your community around you wants you to be successful once they see who you are and the positive you put on the world, just being you.
That is the beauty of living and being near a Jewish Community, most of our suggestions stem from the world you were born into or joined, so make sure to utilize your amazing Jewish connections in the Jewish Community to start navigating dating, career and everything else. If you can’t find a Jewish Man & Woman, it’s because you didn’t yet. Do not give up – we are all here for you. Jmeetups.com wants you to know, that we are constantly investing in your success by finding to partnerships to help with dating and Jewish Single life in your local hometown. It will take time, but you will see, that over time, a Jewish community, virtual or physical, will always create success when there is a great mitzvah behind it and what is a better mitzvah then match making, as they say, Hashem focuses on Matchmaking / Shidduchim all day long.
We look forward to seeing you find success in the Jewish Dating world. Always have faith in Hashem and remember, never worry, as Hashem will truly guide you; prayers to Hashem always help you achieve your dreams. Quick trick – Say Tehillim or Psalms daily and say the number correlating to the year you are in now, so if you are 50 years old, say Psalm Or Tehillim 51. This allows you to have a great connection to Hashem daily via King David’s special words to Hashem, which many believe , if we only knew the power Tehillim / Psalms had, we one never put down the book. Make sure to check out reading Tehillim / psalms daily as that is a huge magical thing to do in our Jewish religion, so feel free to enjoy that tradition! Another idea, Saying Sefer Devarim every Shabbos and finishing the whole Sefer
Devarim before Shabbos ends, Rabbi Pinto and many of his followers are huge believers in it, and we love that Segulah as well. So have a blast getting connected to Hashem via various mystical ways as well as that is always an amazing way in addition to prayer to create a bond that allows for a magical world to take place a Jew.