5 Qualities to find a Nice Jewish Guy to Date
How does one define a nice Jewish guy? We would all agree, that when anyone talks to us Single Jews about finding a nice Jewish whatever, our minds go right into fight or flight mode. What does it mean, nice? So we decided to focus on Women who were looking for Nice Jewish Men and asked them what they were looking for. Essentially, What do you define as a nice Jewish man to marry? We got a ton of qualities in response, but we narrowed it down to these top 5 categories of qualities that they feel equate to a nice Jewish Man and what they were looking for.
Here are the Top 5 Categories of Qualities Jewish Women are looking for in Jewish Men:
Quality #1 – Stability
Someone who has a stable job, income, and overall house situation allows a Jewish Woman to feel that they qualify as a stable man. Are you overall someone that is able to focus and stay on top of that focus so the life around you is able to feel comfortable and stable to others who join in on it? This is something very important for those that are looking for a stable Jewish man.
Quality #2 – Personality
Are you able to hold a conversation where it is effortless? Are you able to maybe make someone laugh or giggle a bit. These things matter. Are you about your intellect and using it in the conversation for deep meaningful discussions or are you getting stuck in just gashmius/nonsense type topics that don’t allow for a deeper more meaningful bond? Things about this as it weighs into your personality more than you realize. Are they mentally Self Aware and on top of their own mental health? How is this individual in terms of conversation with others and keeping their cool about politics and other heated topics? This matters.
Quality #3 – Appearance
You may not be the most attractive Joe Shmo but it is important to at least appear like you care about the appearance enough of the time where you understand as a Man what it means to put quality into what others see. It may be haircut, dress, or overall whatever, but make sure to care a bit about the brand you portray. Look in the mirror.
Quality 4 – Goals & Ethics
Do you have the drive to go somewhere both professionally and on a personal level, like building a strong career, creating your own family, having children, doing what is right, mindset, philosophy on life, etc.? It is important to know someone’s values and make sure it lines up with yours.
Quality 5 – Spirituality
Do they align with your spirituality enough that you feel comfortable moving forward? This is important to many who trust that spirituality is an important facet, and a certain level of tradition or spectrum of Judaism is important in the household.
These are just 5 of many qualities to look for. Make sure to look at your friends who are happily married and look at the personality types that work well together and how they work in their marriage. Sometimes our friends in healthy happy marriages can be our greatest guides in life. Mental Health Experts, Coaches, and many great Therapists can also be fantastic guides in this journey; in the dating world, it is quite hard to find someone that you believe is a fantastic man or woman – it truly takes time. Just allow Hashem/ G-D to lighten the path by praying daily – even if it is hard to pray in a prayer book, start with your mind and have a deep conversation 1:1 with Hashem/G-D and start talking to him before you go to bed. Allow him to help you in finding your right partner in life!