Many shuls do not have a hospitality committee in place, and due to that, many singles or newcomers feel unwelcome or invisible. If you have experienced this, you are not alone. But instead of waiting for things to change, here is how you can create your own welcoming experience.
Be the Welcoming Committee
If you notice someone new at shul, introduce yourself. Ask their name, where they are from, and if they have plans for the Shabbat meal. Sometimes a single friendly face is all it takes to make someone feel at home.
Organize Informal Shabbat Meals
You do not need an official committee to host a Shabbat lunch. Invite a few people over, keep it simple, and create a warm atmosphere. Some of the best community connections happen around a casual Shabbat table.
Start a WhatsApp Group
Create a simple group chat for singles or newcomers in your community. Use it to coordinate Shabbat meal invitations, share upcoming events, and build connections throughout the week.
Partner with Your Rabbi
Talk to your rabbi about starting a hospitality initiative. Many rabbis want to improve the welcoming atmosphere of their shul but need volunteers to help make it happen. Offer to take the lead.
Use JMeetups Events
Create or find local Jewish singles events on JMeetups. Sometimes the best hospitality happens outside the shul walls, at casual gatherings where people can relax and be themselves.
Do not blame the Rabbi. Do not blame the shul. Be the change you want to see in your community. One invitation can change someone's Shabbat.
